Cherishing the Holidays with Your Loved One: Finding Joy in the Present Moment
The holidays are a time for joy, togetherness, and creating lasting memories. For families with a loved one whose cognitive or physical abilities have changed over the years, the season may look different, but that doesn’t mean the joy has to fade. In fact, this is the perfect time to focus on the beauty of the present moment. By embracing your loved one as they are today, you can create new traditions and moments of connection that will be cherished for years to come.
Embracing Where They Are Now
One of the most loving things we can do for our aging loved ones is to meet them where they are. It’s so easy to focus on what they may no longer be able to do, but what if we shifted our attention to what brings them joy and comfort today? It might look a little different, but that’s what makes these moments so special.
Conversations About the Past: If your loved one struggles with memory, let go of the pressure to get all the details right. Instead, engage them in conversations about memories they still hold dear. Ask about their favorite holiday traditions or the most memorable gifts they’ve ever received. You’ll be surprised by the joy these conversations can bring—even if the details aren’t perfectly remembered, the feelings are what matter most.
Creating a Comfortable Environment: If mobility is limited, don’t worry! You can bring the holiday spirit to them. Set up a cozy holiday nook by their favorite chair where they can enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells of the season. Whether it’s a simple Christmas tree in the corner or a holiday-scented candle nearby, these small touches help them feel part of the festivities without any added stress.
Small, Simple Moments of Connection: Remember, it’s not about grand gestures or perfect experiences. It’s about cherishing the simple moments together. Take a moment to sit and chat, enjoy a cup of hot cocoa, or share a quiet holiday song. It’s these small, unspoken interactions that create lasting memories. And don’t forget: these are the moments that count, not how many decorations you can hang or how many people are around the table.
By releasing the pressure to recreate past holidays exactly as they were, you open the door to a season that celebrates the beauty of the present. And here’s a pro tip: Take lots of pictures! Snap photos of these moments, whether it’s your loved one decorating a cookie, enjoying a holiday movie, or just sharing a quiet laugh. These pictures will serve as reminders of the wonderful memories you’re creating right now. Trust me, when you look back at those photos years from now, you’ll see how much love and joy you shared, and they’ll be priceless.
Creating New Traditions
Even if your family’s traditional activities have changed, this doesn’t mean you can’t start new ones! Maybe it’s watching a holiday movie marathon or taking a drive to look at Christmas lights. Perhaps you create a new ritual where everyone shares something they’re grateful for before dinner. Whatever it may be, these small traditions are just as meaningful—and can bring your family even closer together.
Most importantly, enjoy the season without stressing over trying to make it “perfect.” By focusing on the here and now, you create space for real connections. This holiday season, celebrate the love you share, the memories you’re making today, and the joy that still fills your hearts—no matter what changes have come your way.
And, of course, don’t forget to share those beautiful, candid moments of joy. It’s these snapshots that will remind you—and your loved one—of the beauty in the simplicity of the holidays.