Almost every senior I meet says the same thing: “I just want to stay home.” And honestly, I get it. Home is where your chair is molded just right, where the coffee pot is in its perfect spot, and where memories live in the walls. But here’s the tough part—sometimes waiting to make a move means that choice gets taken away. A fall, a sudden illness, or a medication mix-up can turn “someday” into today, and then families are left scrambling.
Did you know that one out of every four older adults in Minnesota falls each year? Falls are actually the number one reason seniors end up in the ER. And once that happens, families often don’t get to tour, weigh options, and make thoughtful choices. Instead, they’re forced to go with what’s available. That’s when regret creeps in.
I still remember a phone call from a daughter about a year ago. Her dad wasn’t ready, she told me. So they waited. Then came the fall down the front steps. A broken hip. A stay at the TCU. When she called us, we were full. She had to move him into a big assisted living community, even though it wasn’t her first choice. A couple of months later, she called again. This time, her voice cracked: “Dad had another nasty fall. He pressed the button, but no one came quick enough. The doctors are saying hospice. I don’t know what to do.”
By grace, a room had just opened up with us. He moved in. And here’s the beautiful twist—one year later, he’s off hospice. He’s thriving. He sips his morning coffee, swaps “war stories” from Korea, and enjoys the kind of one-on-one attention he never got before.
Moving at the right time doesn’t take independence away—it protects it. In our homes, residents often gain more:
- More social interaction, which keeps the brain sharp.
- Better meals and hydration, which lift energy and health.
- Medications given on time, which prevent scary mistakes.
The result? A better quality of life—and in many cases, a longer one.
A Simple Plan
So how do you avoid the crisis move?
- Talk honestly about what your loved one needs now.
- Tour several different settings to see what feels right.
- Decide before a crisis forces your hand.
You don’t have to wait for that middle-of-the-night phone call, another ER trip, or another “we don’t know what to do” conversation. Instead, you can picture your parent safe, cared for, and living with dignity in a true home.
If you’ve been wondering, “Is it time?” — let’s talk. Not with pressure, but with compassion. Because the greatest gift you can give your family is the gift of choice—before it’s gone.










